When men and women talk about what they want in a partner, it often seems as if women want much more than men, but that’s not actually the case.
You see, when women are asked what they want in a man, they list their wants, whereas when men are asked what they want in a woman, they list their needs.
And this is why it often appears as if women want so much more than men, because we perceive the question differently.
When women hear the question, “what do you want in a man,” they hear the question as it is, a question about wants, but when men hear the question, “what do you want in a woman, we hear the question as, “what do we need in a woman.”
Now let’s go more in-depth.
When women talk about what they want, they talk about their ideal man, the man they would have if they could design the perfect man from scratch.
But us men are different, when thinking about what we want, we don’t actually think about what we want, but rather, what we need.
And what we need, is a woman who is attractive, who will cook, clean, be a good mother, and give us lots of sex, those are the fundamentals for us men.
But of course if we could design a woman from scratch to be our perfect woman, our lists of wants would be just as long as a woman’s.
Instead of wanting the woman to simply be attractive, we would want her to be extraordinarily beautiful and to have a perfect body, and we would want her to have the skills of a professional chef, a professional masseuse, and a porn star, and for her to give us sex whenever we want, however we want, and for her to always be calm and reasonable, and so on…
If us men could design a woman from scratch, our list of wants would be just as long as a woman’s.
In which ultimately, although it seems as if women want much more than men, that’s not actually the case, it only appears as such because when women and men talk about what they want in a partner, women list their wants, whereas men list their needs.